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Ida (Melagrano) Fulchini
Ida (Melagrano) Fulchini of
Reading. May 29. Beloved wife of 50 years to Salvatore Fulchini.
Beloved mother of Carmen A. Fulchini and his wife Victoria
of NH and Sandra Emery and her husband Kevin of Reading.
Cherished grandmother of Kyle, Dylan and Jake Emery. Dear
sister of John Melagrano and his wife Dolores
of Stoneham, Susan Milligan and her husband Richard, Marie
Henderson and her husband John
and Margaret Jancy and her husband William all of Marblehead.
EULOGY FOR IDA FULCHINI
delivered by her son
I wasn’t sure how to start
today and then something came to me to that tells you who
my mother was.
Right now she’d be worried about ME standing up here,
she’d be worried about Sandy and Dad
because she would know it will be hard for them to listen
to me without being nervous and wanting to cry
and she’d be concerned for all of you, her family
and friends, for what you feel as I speak to you.
She would have said to me, “Why do you have to be
up there? There is no need. As long as everyone is OK
and can be happy knowing I am alright, I do not need any
words.” That’s MA.
The author Henry James once said,
“Three things in human life
The first is to be kind.
The second is to be kind.
The third is to be kind.”
That was my mother. She had no noted
accolades or public recognition for who she was
or what she did but she made a difference in OUR WORLD.
Everyone who had a chance to be
a part of her life would agree. She was able to have a smile
or encouraging word for anyone.
Her concern, honesty and compassion were so genuine that
you always felt important and valued.
Simply, she had a gift for brightening lives and lifting
spirits. The hearts she touched throughout her life
would go on to touch other hearts and my family has seen
this through the kindness of all of you.
My mother has made a difference through her ability to be
There are two other words that stand
out to me when talking about my mother – PRIDE AND
It was once said that, “You can’t give people
pride, but you can provide the kind of understanding
that makes people look into their inner strengths and find
their own sense of pride.” Ma got her pride that way
and helped us to do the same.
Ma was proud of many things but I
want to take a moment and mention a few – HER FAMILY,
HER DAUGHTER-IN-LAW, VIKKI, HER SON-IN-LAW KEVIN, HER GRANDCHILDREN
KYLE, DYLAN and JAKE, HER DAUGHTER SANDY AND HER HUSBAND
My mother loved her family and loved
to be around them. She asked only two things of them –
love each other
and be happy. She loved and cared for her parents while
they were alive and worried about
and cherished her brother and sisters. Here nieces and nephews
knew Auntie Ida to be a person who always showed
an interest in their lives and who always let them know
how happy she was to see them.
I think when it comes to Vikki, Ma
loved her not only because she knew how much she loved me
but she also knew how much Vikki loved her. They enjoyed
each other’s company and shared
some wonderful moments that I know Vikki will cherish always.
Ma told me that God sent her to let me know
that I deserved to be happy.
Kevin had a special place in my mother’s
heart. She felt there was no one better who could have become
Sandy’s husband and she often told me how comforted
she was knowing how well he cared for her and how clear
it was that he loved her. Though the two of them would never
admit it; they were very much alike – Strong-Minded,
Humble and Generous to a fault. I know she will always watch
One of Ma’s greatest joys was
being NANI to Kyle, Dylan and Jake. Even in her final days
there was nothing that would light up my mother’s
eyes more than being with her 3 grandsons.
She spent as much time with them, through her life, as she
could and traveled on vacations with them as well.
The boys will not only have memories of their times together
but I am sure they will also grow up
remembering her selfless and endearing love.
As a daughter, Sandra brought Ma
many reasons to be proud. She admired Sandy for many things
but most among them were; being a teacher, enjoying life,
being a loving wife and mother and being a strong
and independent woman. The closeness they had went beyond
the mother-daughter relationship.
They shared a bond built on their similarities in how they
lived. In the final months,
Sandy reminded me of Ma – LOVING, EMPATHETIC, and
WARM. I hope Sandy now finds her sense
of pride from this and knows how proud MA was of her.
If there was one thing that could
bring the words PRIDE and LOVE together it is my mother’s
of 50 years, her best friend, our Dad, Sal.
Not only did she love him deeply and unconditionally,
she respected him, honored him and never took him, or his
love, for granted.
They were each other’s center of the universe and
taught us that being married was not just a commitment
but was built on a foundation of simplicity, honesty and
love. A while ago I read a quote
that describes my father’s love for my mother and
what it was like as her end drew closer. I choose to leave
you all with these words not only to describe the love Ma
and Dad shared but to help you find comfort.
“When you love someone so deeply
they become your life, it is easy to succumb to overwhelming
Blindly I imagined I could keep you under a glass.
Now I understand that to hold you I must open my hand and
watch you rise.”
Ralph Albert Fulchino
October 23, 1942
December 1, 2008
Ralph Albert 66, who resided in Naples,
FL, formerly of Fairfax, VA, passed away December 1, 2008.
He was born October 23, 1942
in Revere, MA to the late Maria and Albert Fulchino, Sr.
After graduating from Boston College, he received a Master's
Degree in Economics at Columbia University
and a PhD in International Affairs at Georgetown University.
He served in the Navy as a Telecommunications Officer.
He was later assigned to the National Security Agency (NSA)
as a special liaison to the White House.
His business career spanned over 35 years of executive management
commercial and international businesses,
including Senior Vice President positions with COMSAT, PRC
He began his own global services consulting company, specializing
in strategic alliances
with international technology-based enterprises.
Ralph also complemented his career by serving as a noted
lecturer at several universities,
including most recently at Hodges University and Florida
Gulf Coast University.
Ralph enjoyed most being with his friends and family,
particularly his four grandchildren: Ryan, Stephen, Henry
His warmth and engaging enthusiasm plus abundant energy
will be greatly missed by all.
Ralph is survived by his wife Katheryn "Ki";
his three children, Mark and John of Baltimore, MD, and
Cara of New York City, NY
and by the late Joanne (Bernazani) Fulchino;
his brothers Paul of Wellington, FL and Thomas of Weston,
his sisters Ann Marie of Norfolk, MA and Christine of Nahant,
His family includes numerous nieces and nephews,
many of whom he saw recently in Mobile, AL and the greater
One of the measures of any
is the freedom with which he lends his hand to others
and the kind of hand he lends to others.
Those who knew Ralph were blessed by both.
delivered by his daughter
I’d like to thank all of you
for coming today. We are all such different people, coming
from different places,
and moving through very different circumstances in our lives.
Yet, the simple truth is that despite these differences
we are all undeniably connected.
Here, today- we are connected by one man.
And that man is my father …..Ralph Fulchino.
We do not determine the beginning and end dates of our lives….only
God determines that.
But God hands us many opportunities to make the most of
that dash we call life… in between those dates.
As I wrote this Eulogy I realized that my Dad accomplished
much with his dash.
Born October 23,1942 to Margie and Albert Fulchino he was
the oldest of 5 children.
He was the husband to both my mother Mitzie Fulchino and
to Ki Fulchino.
He was the brother to 4 siblings Paul, Annie, Tom, and Chrissie
the father to me and my two brothers Mark and John.
In addition! He was blessed with being the grandfather –
or as his grandkids called him ” GRAMPY “ –
to 4 very beautiful grandchildren,..Ryan, Stephen, Henry
My dad grew up in Revere, Mass. His father, Dr. Albert Fulchino,
being the high school principle encouraged his children
to take their education as far as possible…
And my father went the distance…Boston College, Columbia,
His thirst for knowledge was unbounded. I remember growing
up seeing his face perpetually buried
in a newspaper or watching a political news show to keep
ever active…ever stimulated.
After his formal schooling my father served in the Navy
and later in his career became a successful businessman.
He had the opportunity to work for both large organizations
as well as being an independent consultant.
His jobs and education allowed him to go to places in world
he never thought he’d see … all the while ….
.no matter how distant the destination… never ever
losing his Boston accent.
At the end of his career, my father was fortunate to go
back to his roots and one of his true loves…Teaching.
He was invigorated by this. He became an Adjunct Professor
teaching Bus. Adm. at Hodges University in Florida
At the core, my father was a simple man, but was not afraid
to move past cocktail conversation
and discuss what really mattered in life.
He loved family, friends, spy films and novels, the ocean,
AND most importantly FOOD! ?
It would be impossible not to love food coming from my family.
We’d have to conduct some DNA tests on you!
Those are the basic facts of my father’s temporal
existence, but my father was more than those facts.
My father touched people, challenged people, and taught
people in many different ways.
Here are some of those ways….
My father was a great provider of support, advice, and counsel
to his siblings, family members and friends.
And I know that my brothers have looked to my father for
counsel as they moved into their own marriages
and started their own families.
For me, my fathers support came through by him and I moving
past what people of my age would describe as
“generational awkwardness” when communicating
Realizing that he no longer needed to be the authority figure,
my father and I began to freely communicate as
adult individuals bringing different perspectives and experiences
into our conversations.
Although this was a courageous struggle at times for my
father and to achieve this level of communications …..
it bore the richest rewards ……………because
we achieved it together.
This was a gift
My father loved family. Throughout the years he remained
very close with his siblings.
Even spearheading and hosting annual sibling gatherings.
Because of this he has left me and my brothers with close
connections to him through his siblings
as well as the same mission my mother left for us when she
which was to always keep the family together despite life’s
This was another gift
My father wanted love and had a great capacity to give love.
He not only had the capacity to love my mother, but also
the capacity to share love and life with his wife Ki who
he truly respected and appreciated.
This was yet another gift
Finally, my father had great Faith. His relationship with
God is one that I could relate to
and most importantly I respected.
As I do, my father trusted and believed in the power of
God to transform and make all things good.
This was the greatest gift.
Losing any parent is an irreplaceable
relationship. For those of you who have lost your parents,
pray to them and cherish their memory.
My father’s legacy will continue to live on. Through
his strengths and vulnerabilities, his joy and sadness,
and his hopes and dreams he molded myself and my brothers
into the people we are today.
My life will never be the same because of it and I am better
I knew the truest essence of my Dad and I loved him.
I will end this Eulogy for Ralph Fulchino with a poem.
Life is but a stopping place,
A pause in what's to be,
A resting place along the road to sweet eternity.
We all have different journeys
Different paths along the way.
We all were meant to learn some things, but never meant
Our destination is a place
far greater than we know.
For some the journey's quicker,
For some the journey's slow.
And when the journey finally ends,
We'll claim a great reward,
And find an everlasting peace,
Together with the lord
God Bless you Dad
Memorial Service Address
delivered by his brother
“The Fulchino Family is pleased
that you are here today for my brother, Ralph. I am Paul
one of Ralph’s four siblings, and am honored to have
been asked to express some thoughts
on behalf of Ki, Ralph’s two sons and daughter, Mark,
John and Cara,
his four beautiful grandchildren, Ryan, Steven, Henry, and
and my brother and sisters, Tom, Annie and Chris
There are people here who span the
complete spectrum of Ralph’s life.
Stepping back, I am sure you will agree that Ralph touched
you in special ways.
I can summarize his impact on my and I am sure your life
with three qualities.
These were the assets he delivered to all of us.
-My first observation about my brother
is that he was the consummate “all around good guy”
--- he was a person of boundless energy—
very exuberant and full of life; couple this with a personality
larger than life;
Ralph was a person of great values; remained steadfastly
religious; was a truly great husband and family man
---oh how he loved his grandchildren.
Ralph lived within the rails--did all the right things;
he consistently shed a positive light on everything;
was always helpful, refreshing and interesting to talk to;
no matter the audience was appreciated by all.
-Ralph’s second amazing quality
was that he loved people and people loved him.
He was the mayor – be it where he grew up or wherever
he lived or worked.
It was not Red Sox nation – it was Ralph nation
– Revere, Columbia University, the Navy, in DC, Georgetown,
Univ, Severna Park (Md),
Palatine and Chicago (Ill), Boxford (Mass), Fairfax (Va),
Naples (Fla)...and at the many universities he taught.
Whether the golf pro or the deli guy – Ralph was their
and everyone was Uncle this, Aunt that,
how's my boy or girl so and so?
They all popped up and smiled when arrived.
He was full of life and rich with humor – a constant
ribber and prankster as you know,
he had lots of fun with his people skills....As my son David
said to his Cara 2 days ago,
and it captures the essence of his persona
… "Ralph made you feel like a million bucks when
you walked in the room."
This was Ralph….it was all about you--not him
-Ralph’s third quality was
his most compelling for it defines the person
..he was very much the giver not the taker.
He always put you first regardless of his situation at the
He loved to guide, teach, counsel and gave back tremendously
with his pro-bono work, university teaching
and his technology consulting which often he did as favors
He made many a sacrifice at his own expense
and often put his reputation on the line for eager and aspiring
...and stayed with them throughout the process.
My daughter Lisa is one of many examples of his passion
..having spent great deals of time counseling her on education
and job options
The world defines your legacy by
measuring you on your input value and impact on people.
Ralph selflessly gave to all much value and his legacy is
the impact he made to each and everyone of our lives.
What is interesting is his impact was the same to people
no matter what walk of life or what their level.
That was his gift...he delivered himself to Ralph nation
...regardless of an individual’s station an uplift,
a smile, a contribution, a greater achievement
...their day was brighter when Ralph was with them.
That is what defined Ralph.
There is a beacon in my mind and
hopefully yours...a shining light that will keep Ralph's
memories alive forever
...it reflects his great points of advice, his what to do
Paul always remember these things file.
It shines brightly his notable humor, and his captivating
open smile and big hug.
I will forever be hugged by Ralph
and I am sure you will feel his embrace too.
My heart goes out to Ki, Mark, Cara, and Johnnie and Little
Ryan, Steven, Henry and Paolo
for you will miss a great great man.
In closing a true friend is defined as one who without hesitation,
in an unwavering and uncompromising manner, makes every
effort to bring value to a fellow friend.
My brother Ralph was to each and every one of you a true
friend, an extraordinary human being,
who brought true value to all around him – one of
the truly good guys,
who constantly gave and never asked to receive, who loved
life and mostly the people within it.
Please hug me, Bro because I miss
nephew Charles "Bill" Penna )
She was born Artamia Maria Rotondi
on January 10th, 1914 in Stoneham, Mass.
She was the 5th of nine children to Sabino Rotondi and Antoinette
who immigrated from Torre Le Nocelle, Avellino, Italy in
She was the bookkeeper for the family construction/reality
business since she was eighteen
until her death.
She later took Josephine her confirmation name as her middle
She married Carmine Edward Fulchino April 18th 1948.
Aunt Tamia passed away Sunday morning 7/6/08.
The four pictures below show Tamia
and Bill's mother Mary in all four pictures,
the middle sister Amelia is in two pictures
and their brother Babe (Albert Rotondi is in one ).
These pictures were taken in the early 1940's,
Tamia would be in her late twenties
and Bill's mother in her early twenties.
These next photo's below include Tamia
with her husband Carmine Fulchino
before they were married plus a picture of Carmine as a
and the bottom pictures were taken in the early 1930's
where Tamia's age ranged between 18 and 21..
ARTAMIA JOSEPHINE (ROTONDI) FULCHINO
January 10, 1914 – July 5, 2008
Artamia Josephine Rotondi was born
on January 10, 1914,
the fifth child and first daughter born to Sabino and Antoinette
immigrants from Southern Italy. With two more brothers and
two sisters born after her,
she quickly assumed the role of a second mother to
her younger siblings and urgently needed helper to her parents.
Family was very important to her and – “when
the chips were down” - she was always fiercely loyal
to every member of her family.
After graduating from high school,
where she had excelled as an athlete,
she put aside any opportunity to go out in the working world
remain at home and serve as the bookkeeper in the family’s
while continuing to help her mother in the running of the
Introduced to her “soul mate”,
Carmine Fulchino, by her eldest brother, Charlie, prior
to the outbreak of World War II,
she had to wait until after the war to become his bride
. They were married on April 18, 1948,
beginning a union which would last until his death on August
With this union, the loyalty to her family was extended
to the entire Fulchino family.
Not having been blessed with children
of her own, she was very generous to her nieces and nephews
in both families.
She never forgot any of us on our birthdays or at Christmas.
My earliest memories include memories of Aunt Tamia coming
to our house on Christmas Eve,
laden with gifts for my brothers and me.
She always seemed to know what “we needed”.
After I was married,
she continued her gift giving – then giving gifts
of cheese, baloney, coke and cake.
Aunt Tamia, like all of us, was not
perfect. She was a strong passionate woman,
but she was ALWAYS there for all of us.
She taught me to drive and assisted my brother and cousins
in the running of their businesses.
Her generosity was never ending and will be her enduring
My cousin Pam said it best, “She was everyone’s
Rest in peace, Aunt Tamia. You have
fought the good fight; finished the race; and kept the faith.
Your heavenly reward and Uncle Carmine await you in Paradise.
Arthur J. Rotondi, Jr.
St. Patrick’s Church
July 12, 2008
Artamia Maria Fulchino